but JLaw falling doesn’t strike me as ‘quirky’ or ‘adorable’ at all
it strikes me as careless and insolent and here’s why
performing femininity is sooooo imperative for WOC in order to garner respect and even sometimes your very life
i got the Talk from my mum about how to walk like a lady since i was 6
she herself performed femininity rigorously
because it’s one of the few ways Black and Brown women can grasp a smidgen, a tiny flicker, of (if not respect) at least tolerance
y’all think Lupita can afford to not care about how she comports herself? u think she can afford to make immature jokes about food and carry herself like a bull in a china shop? y’all think Gina Torres, Gabourey Sidibe, Salma Hayek, Lucy Liu could get away with that shit?
jlaw knows plenty well how to carry herself with etiquette and grace she just doesn’t care
'quirkiness' is all fun and games when you have the privilege to trip all over yourself and still be considered a desirable, accomplished woman.
meanwhile ima stay unimpressed until the day my Brown and Black girls can afford the same careless freedom that jlaw and her stans take for granted
Barbara Creed (via earlyfrost)
Recommended fiction if you’re into this quotation: Fire by Kristin Cashore, Fist of the Spider Woman ed. Amber Dawn, ”Devourings” by Aimee Bender in xoOrpheus ed. Kate Bernheimer, many things by China Miéville* including Embassytown and Perdido Street Station and The Scar, Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys (and Jane Eyre by Charlotte Brontë, I guess).
*holy shit, I’ve read so many interviews with China Miéville and never his Wikipedia page; what have I even been thinking
Instead of waiting in her tower, Rapunzel slices off her long, golden hair with a carving knife, and then uses it to climb down to freedom.
Just as she’s about to take the poison apple, Snow White sees the familiar wicked glow in the old lady’s eyes, and slashes the evil queen’s throat with a pair of sewing scissors.
Cinderella refuses everything but the glass slippers from her fairy godmother, crushes her stepmother’s windpipe under her heel, and the Prince falls madly in love with the mysterious girl who dons rags and blood-stained slippers.
Persephone goes adventuring with weapons hidden under her dress.
Persephone climbs into the gaping chasm.
Or, Persephone uses her hands to carve a hole down to hell.
In none of these versions is Persephone’s body violated unless she asks Hades to hold her down with his horse-whips.
Not once does she hold out on eating the pomegranate, instead biting into it eagerly and relishing the juice running down her chin, staining it red.
In some of the stories, Hades never appears and Persephone rules the underworld with a crown of her own making.
In all of them, it is widely known that the name Persephone means Bringer of Destruction.
Red Riding Hood marches from her grandmother’s house with a bloody wolf pelt.
Medusa rights the wrongs that have been done to her.
Eurydice breaks every muscle in her arms climbing out of the land of the dead.
Girls are allowed to think dark thoughts, and be dark things.
Instead of the dragon, it’s the princess with claws and fiery breath
who smashes her way from the confines of her castle
and swallows men whole.
'Reinventing Rescuing,' theappleppielifestyle. (via justawordshaker)
this should be gayer tho
This is the crux of it. I am really good at this. Part of dragging femininity is knowing its tools, knowing the trappings that have clung to, helped, and hurt it over tens of centuries. And honey, I know it inside and out. I can bring you to your knees with what I know about femininity. But it’s not that simple. It’s not about what I can pull out of my pockets, from behind my ear, from the instep of my boot. I am really good at femininity, but that’s the point. I can drag the shit out of it."
— Alex Holding “This Femme’s User Guide” Visible: a femmethology vol. 2, via a Facebook-femme
i love nicki minaj and janelle monae because their aesthetics are so far removed from one another but they both actively attempt to defy traditional standards of beauty in their own completely different ways
i think nicki goes “hyper-feminine” (see: Barbie) and challenges traditional standards of beauty by being LOUD in her femininity in both her demeanor and her appearance. yes she likes pink but not only does she like pink she FUCKING LOVES PINK. furthermore, i think she enjoys appropriating male symbols of power or traditionally masculine clothes and “feminizing” them by (flawlessly) incorporating them into her own outfits. or she makes her feminine outfits threatening by wearing spikes and sharp edges
janelle’s aesthetic is more focused around blurring the lines of traditional femininity and masculinity. janelle’s occasional forays into more traditional standards of beauty for women only make it more obvious that she is saying “I am the one who chooses how I look. Today I choose to look this way for myself and tomorrow I may choose to look differently.” she does things like wear a formal white button up, but with a ribbon neck tie. or strappy heels and an all-white suit with a gorgeous necklace. or a suit-inspired dress with a lot of cleavage. she doesn’t even give a shit about gendered clothing and just wears whatever the fuck she wants
i also love love love that they defy white-centric ideas of beauty. nicki has an alter-ego named barbie… what defies white-centric ideas of beauty more than a woman from trinidad calling herself barbie when mattel refuses to release a doll with brown skin called barbie and instead making her one of “barbie’s friends”?
and janelle is constantly constantly using natural black hair and i think she is constantly paying omage to african and african american culture in her aesthetic… i would be shocked if her cover for archandroid wasnt inspired by queen nefertiti
anyways i just love how these ladies dress themselves because i see it as a big middle finger to traditional ideas of how black women should look and i think that’s just great bye
yo automatically labelling every guy wearing a dress genderqueer/trans* is harmful, because what you are basically saying is that no man can ever engage in femininity - whereas women have been wearing trousers and suits for years and yet those traditionally masculine items of clothing are ‘gender neutral’. you’re trying to break down archaic gender roles but you’re just enforcing them in a different way. masculinity is not neutral. c’mon.
The art of “no,” continued: Saying no when you’ve already said yes. (via lets-go-lesbos)
This goes for all the things. Not just guys, not just creeps, not just strangers. It goes for bosses, family, friends, lovers. Don’t you ever goddamn forget it, and don’t you worry your pretty little head over explaining yourself, either.
Yo, WOC in sci-fi & fantasy narratives don’t necessarily have to adhere to all the same tropes as their white counterparts in order to fulfill the criteria of a “strong female character” — and often times that definition of strength is extremely narrow and doesn’t take into account stereotypes leveled specifically against WOC. I think white feminists looking to critique media often forget that fact. A WOC is still a feminist character when she expresses vulnerability, delicacy, and emotion, since common narratives tend to strip us of our humanity unless we fulfill very specific and racist archetypes (“angry black woman”, “spicy latina”, “mystic indian”, “dragon lady”, etc.)
how the fuck do i keep forgetting i saw beyoncé in july?