unfortunately i got around to looking at his profile and while his taste in music gives me a boner, that’s about it.
i told a dude on okc that his come-on was rape-culture-y and he actually listened to my explanation and apologized!?!?!!!!!!!!
like seriously if one more dude (cis or trans) messages me because they want me to help them figure themselves out, i’m going to lose my shit. get a therapist or talk to a friend; emotional labor for strangers is not what i am fucking here for.
top pressure: a thing i have only recently started to experience. RENEWED APPRECIATION FOR ALL THE TOPS WHO’VE EVER FUCKED ME, ESPECIALLY ON AN ONGOING BASIS. (except that for actually all of them feeling top pressure and topping is way easier than letting go of control and opening up enough to bottom, so.)
some 20-year-old bro thinks i’m “cute” and i’m not sure what happened but i rly just wanna fuck him in the ass.
pros: he’s cut and hot
cons: contact him if “your [sic] into a normal lifestyle” (uh?)
okay but WHY would i be interested in geeking out about gender/sexuality with a cisdude whose racial and class background are basically identical to mine? i don’t think it’s “geeking out” when conversation will go one of two ways: 1. me dyke schooling you and you being like “wow, what a great, interesting conversation!!” and me being like “dude this is shit that i have taken as simple given facts for at least five or six years now” OR 2. you trying to “debate” or “play devil’s advocate” to offer me some “perspective” you think i haven’t “really considered” before. if you can’t teach me anything in conversation, it’s not worth my time, bro.
feels dumb making complainy posts re: the website seeing as i don’t have to deal with anything as dumb/creepy/awful as most women seem to, but seriously, catholic seminarians of okcupid: before sending a message soliciting casual sex you might want to log off, take a walk, and reconsider a few life decisions. just maybe?
— new standard reply to straight couples masquerading as bisexual women (if their profile indicates that the way they want to interact with other women isn’t too gross to handle)