Chinua Achebe (via rightinfrontoftheolderkids)
Today would be a really good day to start reading Anthills of the Savannah, if you’re looking for a book recommendation! It’s rad as hell and includes Achebe calling himself out for his own sexism in Things Fall Apart.Now THAT’S how to write with political ethics towards those less empowered than yourself.
oops i just found another thing to add to the top of my reading list.
once upon a time, i was kind of straight. i wasn’t really straight, and i never thought i would only ever sleep with or date straight men, but i was straight the way you’re straight when you find men and masculinity attractive as a teenager in a heterosexist world. i had one of those authority-flouting, sex-having, drug-trying bffs4lyfe, and she and i used to, flouting authority, throw around the word “sir,” affectionately, to assent to requests from people of all genders.
then i got “actually” queer and kinky (in practice in addition to desire). then i was flirting with my first butch (a bigendered trans guy), and i dropped a “yes, sir” without really thinking about it, and i could sense that breath-catch, i could sense him get hard, even through gchat.
and that was one of the first times i felt gender being created through a relation, and it was the last time i said something so powerful unintentionally.