my neck hurts
from giving so much head in the last 24 hours.
this pleases me.
"I think people are quick to reclaim the word Slut or Whore or whatever and expect everyone to do the same, and they don’t realize at what cost that reclamation has on some people. Often white women will romanticize the reclamation of the word without understanding that the process of having command over your bodily integrity and sexuality is not as easy for some people."
— blck-grrl (in answer to an Ask about slutwalk)
(Source: feministdisney, via genderfuckandsecrets)
(Source: the-perks-0f-being-infinite, via fuckyeahhardfemme)
I happen to really like that happy ending. Yes.
I am a feminist
and I disagree with the attempts to co-opt/”reclaim” the word slut.
why do we just not reject it altogether, along with the notion that there is anything wrong with women enjoying sex on their own terms?
*for me* reclaiming terms has been an effective way to remove their power to hurt me. this has been true of “dyke,” of “queer,” and of “lesbian” (which has become an insult, i think, within the queer community). when someone shouts “dyke” at me, i think, “…yes?” when some radqueer little shit is like “that’s so…lesbiannnn,” i’m like “…yeah?” they intend to insult, but in fact all they’ve done is identify me as something i am content to be. i feel the same way about slut, but probably a bit more complexly because of its paradoxical meaning and role in some types of sex i enjoy.
all of that said, my reclaiming of words is facilitated by the fact that i, of all queers, dykes, lesbians, and sluts, am at really low risk of actually being harmed by people identifying me as such. i’m cis, i’m white, i’m middle-class and employed somewhere that’s queer-, poly-, sex-, and kink-positive, and i often pass for straight. i don’t think it’s part of “feminism” to reclaim slut or any of those other terms; reclamation is not a prescriptive tenet of The Feminism. it is one personally significant way that i enact feminism on my own identities and my own body, but i can’t really claim that any other people should enact feminism on their own identities and bodies in the same way (or that they should enact feminism on their identities and bodies at all, given how fucked up the broad community/movement of feminism has been towards a lot of communities of women).
screech swoon screech screech swoon
is how i would sum up the past week?
i dunno guys, my friends keep making fun of me and on wednesday the intern at work called me out on not being able to concentrate due to flashbacks to the night before.
and i’m about to go meet red by a bridge wearing only thigh-high boots, an njoy butt plug, and a pink lace nighty underneath my coat.
sea sponges rule, also. i got my period today but can still obey orders!
I wrote about sluts and how fucking does not deplete their power because fucking is the reward, not the sacrifice.
Been thinking about this for probably like a year; I was reminded that I’d been meaning to write this post when this quote started making the rounds on the internets:
Stop degrading the act of sex by calling it ‘opening your legs.’
I’m so sick of women being degraded all the time. Because women just, you know, lay back and ‘spread their legs’ and let men do whatever they want. They don’t take any active role in the actual sex act or enjoy it. They are just objects that lay there with their legs open. Then they are stupid because through poor judgement or mishap, they became pregnant. The man is never blamed or shamed or degraded for having sex. There are no phrases used to degrade the act of a man participating in a sexual act, at least not a heterosexual one.
Anyways. The post is also slightly porny. Bonus!
"I don’t care how much sex anyone has, how often they do it, or who they do it with. I’m much more interested in the consent, pleasure, and well-being of the participants and the people affected by it. I respect women who are asexual, celibate, monogamous, multi-partnered, or have had more partners than they can recall. I respect women who only have sex after a commitment to monogamy and those who have sex with someone within minutes of meeting them. I respect women who have transactional sex, women who have sex for love, or for any other reason. I know that all of these categories are permeable and that many women move from one to another. And I know that any of these decisions can be made from a place of personal power, choice, and authenticity, as well as from a place of coercion, shame, and disempowerment."
— Charlie Glickman (If You Don’t Respect Sluts, You Don’t Respect Women)
How do queers celebrate the return of spring?
By having outdoor public sex.
:3
yuss. this is what i sexted about today.
(via direwitch)
